How a Life Coach can give you the jump-start you’ve been looking for
January is that one time of the year when the sound of people declaring their new year’s resolutions is deafening. “I will start my own business”, “I will write my first novel”, “I will learn a new language”. But why is it that we wait for the start of a new year to state our intentions only to – more often than not – neglect them one, two, three months in?
Really, we should feel liberated to start acting on our dreams at any moment, on any given day. It’s thought that only 5% of the UK public follow through on their new year’s resolutions. So, what’s holding us back?
In our experience, often the biggest obstacle is that we don’t know where to start. Starting a new venture that you know next to nothing about can be a daunting task, and that’s why you need support. Here at the The Skillset Group, we facilitate multiple training programmes every single week, but that doesn’t mean we don’t carve out time to develop ourselves whenever we have the opportunity. We decided that we would follow through with our own advice and realise one of our learning goals for this year. Therefore, a few of the team attended a two-day Life Coach course in London because: You can’t do it all by yourself, all the time.
The GROW Model
It was hosted by four life coaches, each speaking on different topics and bringing a refreshing perspective on the pivotal role a coach can play in your life. Whether professional or personal – it can contribute to the development of your individual skillset.
The first was all about the basics of coaching – and in particular – the GROW model. GROW is a simple but effective framework that is used by coaches to understand their coachee’s challenges properly, and to help identify what their next actions should be, in order to reach a solution.
We’ve jotted some notes down below to explain the framework:
“G” stands for goals.
The first question a coach will ask “What do you want to achieve?” “What does your goal mean to you?” “When will you meet your goal?”
“R” stands for reality.
Once the goal has been established, you’ll need to think practically about how you can achieve your goal…”What support do you need to achieve your goal?” “What challenges do you expect to encounter?” “How might you deal with them?”
“O” stands for options.
The next stage prompts you to think about three or four things you could do that might help you reach your goal. “What are the pros and cons of each option?” Or, “What factors will you use to weigh up these options?”
“W” stands for will or way forward.
And finally, will is about proving how committed you are to the actions you have established and what can be done to increase that commitment
We found that this exercise really did help to simplify our thinking. When taking on a new challenge, it’s so easy to overcomplicate things, and this model makes it easier to “start”. By adhering to the GROW model, you’re likely to already have a good grasp of what you need to do to succeed, and how committed you are. Once you have started your journey to achieving your goal, your commitment is something that is crucial to maintaining momentum (remember…just 5% make their resolutions a reality!).
Priorities and what matters to you
Our second host spoke to us a lot about the wheel of life, our priorities and how we can balance these to be at our most productive. In a more practical session on a Saturday afternoon, the enthusiastic facilitator asked us some important questions. “What do we want to be?” “What do we want to do?” “What skills do we have for now and want in the future?”. These are big questions for a Saturday afternoon, but by using the wheel of life exercise, we were able to hone in on what is important to us, again proving that just that little bit of guidance can really help steer your thoughts and focus.
Come the morning of day two, we’d already learnt so much about how to harness one’s passions, but it’s not always so easy to fully believe you can achieve what you want. Sometimes we like to think that the difficulty in becoming who we want to be resides in convincing others that that is who you are. But really the problem can lie in convincing yourself.
Just when we thought it couldn’t get any better, the third session sent us into learning overdrive. It thought us how to turn self-limiting beliefs into self-empowering ones. Absorbing these powerful insights from a participant’s perspective rather than a trainer’s perspective gave us inspiration for future workshops. We work in goal setting environments all the time, but they brought a fresh new perspective on goals.We learnt more about the four P’s -Personal, Positive, Present tense, Possible – and about the power of saying something aloud/writing down. It can serve as a reminder and a driver for you to achieve what you wish.
Now, you don’t need to obsess over your goals. No need to shout your goals at the top of your voice whilst hoovering around the house, but simply write them down and revisit them often. When you put pen to paper you make the commitment to yourself and you’re more likely to follow through.
Coaching and being coached
For the final session of the two days, our dynamic presenter opened up about his/her journey to becoming a Life Coach and how they achieved what many of us aspire to, turning a passion into a profession. You see, he realised that many of us are unknowingly coaching, or are being coached every day. He established that you don’t have to be a seasoned professional of multiple different careers to become a coach, you simply need to be able to help people find a solution, a plan or a path to where they want to be.
So there you have it, after two days of self-assessment and reflection, we emerged refreshed and feeling fully equipped to tackle any 2020 goal we might have jotted down. And if we had to leave you with one key takeaway? The next time you’re thinking about making a New Year’s Resolution, remember, you don’t need to figure it all out yourself and the best thing you can do, is start…
…and if you need a hand, drop us a note. We’re here to help.
This blog post has been written by Alexander Mills, trusted advisor at The Skillset Set Group.